Hey Dad... Excuse me! Are you listening?

Is your dad finding it hard to hear? It can be a difficult topic to bring up but having a conversation about hearing loss with a family member is an act of kindness. Most hearing-impaired people tend to ignore the problem, and this can lead to severe consequences in terms of physical health problems as well as social isolation. 

Find a time when neither of you feel under pressure or irritable. A good atmosphere is the best starting point for a difficult conversation to ensure that you both feel open and positive. It is important not to build the conversation on feelings of frustration. Try bringing his favourite cake or something that will help to create a positive vibe. Turn off the TV and the radio and make sure to find a time without the presence of young children.

To begin with, show understanding of the fact that this is a difficult and vulnerable situation. Imagine how you would feel if you needed a hearing aid. (Maybe you can relate it to how long it took you to get your first reading glasses because you thought it was a passing problem, and because the very thought of reading glasses made you feel old.

Avoid blaming and do not list all the times he should have realized that he has a problem. Base the conversation on your love for him and on how the problem affects you. Tell him that you miss talking to him at social gatherings and that it doesn’t have to be that way. Also, mention ex. that your son who visits once a week with his family would like to be able to keep having the valuable chats with him even when it is a bit noisy with the whole family around.

Pointing out a problem and then leaving your parent to deal with it on his or her own, often isn’t enough. If your parent has reached a certain age and feels overwhelmed by technology, then go with him to see the specialist and help him adjust the hearing aid when the time comes.